Monday, September 30, 2013

How my childhood impacted who I am today

Today, I am linking up again with Becky to talk about how my childhood impacted who I am today. Let me start by saying my childhood was awesome, I never went without anything and my life was filled with loving moments. However, my childhood had many tough moments as well.

My parents relationship. My parents were married for 23 years and got divorced while I was in high school. Growing up, I don't remember their relationship being bad, but looking back I don't remember seeing them embrace in too many loving moments together either. I also don't remember them doing a lot of things together. Then, my dad had an affair and we went through some very tough moments before they divorced. I would definitely say these were the most difficult years of my life. Their relationship has transformed me in so many ways. My husband and I do everything together. We go to the grocery store as a family, we go to ballet or swim as a family. We workout together, we do family activities together, we stay united! Trust, well, no doubt after what I experienced I have issues with that, but I have learned to trust, however, I will ALWAYS be cautious!

My grandparents. Growing up my dad's parents/my grandparents lived next door and my most fond memories in my childhood involve them. They were my best friends. Unfortunately, they were older and so they left me way too soon, but having this love in my life has taught me how important this bond is, so I will always go out of my way to make sure that my kids have this relationship with their grandparents. It is the most special one outside of mommy and daddy that there is!

Sibling Relationship. My sister and I are only 18 months apart, but not the closest. I wish so very badly we were closer and I pray that one day when she settles down (she is older) that we can bond more and spend more time together. I wish for that soon! I want to try to encourage my kids to love one another, support one another and be there for one another. It is a process I am sure I will lean on God to help with, but I pray I can encourage them to be the best of friends and hoping our family doing everything together helps with this.

Life. So again, I never went without and I had a great childhood, but there are some things I hope to do differently. When my kids are old enough to appreciate it, I hope to take them on vacations around the world and let them see different places. I hope to provide them with college funds, but also let them appreciate the value of a dollar like we did. I hope to have a bond with my children. Have very open communication in our family and talk about everything. I want them to come to me about it all!! I want to instill a healthy, active lifestyle, but still with the splurges of treats! I want all of this for them!

These are a few of the ways my childhood impacted who I am today. Life wasn't always easy. I struggled with my parents divorce, I struggled with being an overweight child and I didn't have the greatest bond with my mom or my sister, but these things have transformed me and the way I look at life today. I pray I take the best from my experiences and give my kids the best possible life I can provide for them. They are what I live for!

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